Hello Swarm Single Moms
It's Sunday. For some, today is a day of rest, a day spent with family and getting prepped for the week ahead.
Recently, I was thinking about my daughter and how her leaving for college will direct my feet onto a new path. It has only been in the last few years that I have even thought about my life when she moves into her next phase of life. I have friends with children just starting kindergarten in the fall and others who have just had their first grandchild. I am at the somewhere in-between stage and as I move through this life I have a feeling this will be my hardest transition. For eighteen years it has just been her and I. I have made 99 percent of my decisions based on her and helping her grow up and get to this place where she is confident in her decision making and apprehensive, but excited about her future.
Until the day a couple of years ago, when she asked me what I will do when she leaves, I had never, ever thought about it. I remember looking at her (maybe stunned) and answering that I will just keep doing what I do. I work, I clean, I organize, I run this small grassroots organization...In other words I live a life.
But as the days and months and years have passed I have kept her question close to the surface of my consciousness. What will I do when the most important person in my life moves on in her life? The person who most transformed who I have become and truly made me a better person than I ever would have cared to be. So this morning, as I run my future through my head again I want to share with you this thought: We need to think about the things in life that are painful and scary. We need to make plans for our future. Not just our financial future, but the future that will hold our happinesses and our dreams. The time to plan is now, not when our children have already grown up, but while they are growing. Where do you see YOU when your children go off to college?
What special treat can you plan for yourself while planning for your future?
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